Honouring Our Mothers - A Systemic Exercise

This week's episode is all about honouring our Mother's ahead of Mother's day on 12/5.

It is a short, systemic exercise drawn from the Family Constellations methodology I have spoken about in previous episodes - refer to Episode 12: (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2193457/13374182) , if you are new to this or want a refresher.

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Transcript

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Welcome to the Integrated Wisdom Podcast. I am your host, Tatyana Da Silva. Join me as we discuss what it means to live an integrated life and explore ways for you to create a life filled with greater meaning, peace, and connection by integrating the wisdom of spirituality, psychology, Neuroscience, Epigenetics and Energy Psychology are hoped to empower you to create deeper and more loving connections with yourself and others, whilst also paving the way for humanity at large to be reimagined and inspired to become the very best version of itself. Hello, and welcome to the integrated wisdom podcast. Thank you so much for joining me for yet another week. This week, I'm going to keep it short and sweet. Because it's mother's day coming up. And I wanted to just provide you with an exercise. It's a systemic exercise taken from family constellations, Modality. And. A is an exercise that needs all about. Honoring our mothers, the women that gave birth to us. That brought us into this world. There's jokes In psychology circles, that everything is the mother's fault. And certainly when we talk about. Uh, things like. People pleasing, perfectionism. Self sacrificing schemas, a lot of the time we tend to equate these programs. With a disrupted attachment to our mother figure in particular. It's not always the case. But more often than not, it gets associated with our mother figure and for those of you who have listened to some of the episodes I've done. On family constellations and the underpinning. Off that modality. You, you will know that the, the relationship with our parents and the way that love. And life source energy flows to us. Comes through our parents and when the Al relationship with them. He's disrupted in any way when we have judgments of them for being flawed human beings, which inevitably we find ourselves having from time to time. That you cause all sorts of disruptions, not only to the relationship with our mother or father. But also for various aspects of our life, it's very common. For example, from a systemic lens. To consider. Disruptions with the, in our sense of self elf feelings of. Not being clear on our path or purpose. On earth. having issues with our self-esteem or self-worth. finding ourselves in Relationship dynamics. Where we feel. The need to, to please to. Give excessively it's often from a systemic lens it's often associated with. A disrupted connection to the mother figure. And the female line. And so I thought, you know, in honor of mother's day, To give. My listeners, this exercise to do. I think it, it's a way of honoring the woman that our mother is in. The one that gave birth to us. And acknowledgement of. The totality of that person, the fallibility of that person. but also the, irrefutablel fact that we wouldn't be here or not for her. And also helping us. To heal some of those wounds that we have within ourselves. To drop some of those judgements and expectations that actually weigh us down. And keep us. Vibrating or focusing on a sense of lack. A sense of injustice sense of disempowerment. and this is why I chose to do. This exercise this week. It is just a short episode for that reason. I want to give you guys a tool that you can use. And a way to honor. Our mothers. So with the way that you do this exercise, it's a visualized exercise. You certainly don't have to say any of these words to your mom. Um, but you would imagine your, your mother in front of you. Or your mother figure in front of you for those of you. Who may not have met your biological mothers. Yes, you would imagine this woman standing in front of you. And really anchoring in a space of stillness within yourself. Connecting with. your heart, Trying to say the words. As best you can. From a place of authentic emotion. It might be hard to do it at first, especially if your relationship with your mother. Is is quite, um, fractured. But. listening through the words for few times, until you can find a connection with the truth of the words. And then visualizing yourself saying these words to this woman. So we invite you to create the space. Find yourself a quiet space where there's no distractions. Really focusing on your breath at first, allowing yourselves to settle. Getting to a space of stillness. Taking as many deep, slow breaths as you need to. To connect with the essence of that. And then you can visualize your mother or mother figure standing in front of you. And they're just listening. they're not going to say anything that just going to listen. You're speaking to the essence of that woman. And in your mind, you'll say. Dear mum. I don't know your story. I don't know everything that you have lived through. Maybe at times, it wasn't easy for you. Now I see your pain. I'm sorry. For the many times I may have judged you. Without even knowing. All of your motivations. All of your whys. I'm sorry for not seeing you. In your totality. I'm sorry for not seeing your pain. And your losses. Now I can see that it wasn't always easy for you. It also, wasn't always easy for me. But mom, I now release you from all of my expectations. I accept that you only gave me what you were capable of. No more. No less. You are only able to give me what you yourself received. So it couldn't be any other way. Now I see all of you. And I accept you. With your pains. And your losses. If it were'nt for them, I wouldn't be here. I wouldn't have received. The greatest gift. Someone can receive. The gift of life. Thank you. I am so grateful. Mum now I see that I have received enough from you. I honor you when I live my life. In fullness in abundance. And in joy. And I will make the most of the life that you have given me. Thank you. I asked for permission. To leave with you. What is yours? I to move forward only with what is mine. So that I may step forward. Into a life of abundance. And fullness. And when I heal myself, I heal you and all that came before us. Thank you for the gift of my life. And as you do these. Focusing on your heart center. Visualize yourself. Very reverently. Bowing towards this woman. Allowing yourself to be filled with that sense of gratitude. At compassion. And love. And then when you're ready, you can very gently release this woman from your mind's eye. And connect back into your environment. And that is the exercise in essence, it's, it's an acknowledgement. If you pay attention to the words, It's an acknowledgement. That the woman that brought us into this world. Is a mortal woman. It was a fallible woman. But is a woman that also had a whole life, whole story. Long before we came into the picture. It's so easy for us to forget. That the woman that we have in our lives, the mother that we have. Had a life of her own before us. That was filled with joy and excitement and adventure. But also that was filled with challenge, and at times pain. And some of the. What we perceive as flaws or fallibilities. Are echoes of the pain that she endured. So, this exercise is also a way of finding compassion. For the essence of that woman. Any lightens the burden. Of the pain that we, we experienced ourselves. From having. Our needs not be matching the way that we needed them to have been. Any that we can find compassion for her. And for ourselves. So for those of you who do this exercise, I would love to hear how you find it. What comes up for you? I hope you find this valuable. And then he allows you to find spaces of ease and lightness and peace. And you can always reach me as you know, on Instagram. At integrated underscore wisdom, or you can email me at hello@integratedwisdom.com.au. I'd love to hear from you. If you do. Give this exercise a chance. Uh, how you find it, or if you have any questions about any of this. If it brings up anything for you. And. I also want to take this opportunity to just thank my mother. For all the sacrifices that she made for me. She knows what they are. I know what they are. And I am so grateful, mum. For everything that you have done and continue to do for me and for all of us. And so I hope you'll have a lovely week. And I'll speak to you soon. Thank you for tuning in to this episode of Integrated Wisdom. It is my sincere wish that today's episode may have intrigued and inspired you to reclaim your power and step into becoming more fully integrated spiritual beings. New episodes are published every Wednesday. And I hope you'll continue to join us as we dive deeper into what it means to live an integrated life. So if it feels aligned to you, I invite you to hit subscribe and share it with others who you feel may benefit too. You may also find me on Instagram at integrated underscore wisdom. Remember, each moment is an opportunity to embrace your divine potential and create a world that is more frequently inspired. So for now, stay connected, stay inspired and keep shining your light. Into the world.